Gay Singles 101: How to Make The First Move

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We’ve been getting a lot of questions on flirting and how to make the first move. Well, today is your lucky day because we’re going to let you know some tips that will not only get his attention, but also create a curiosity to leave him wanting more.

1. Lock Eyes With Your Target

It amazes me how many gay guys have a problem looking into another gay man’s eyes while flirting with him. Maybe it’s shyness, maybe it’s a fear of rejection… who knows?! Whatever the case is, this is a very important step because it’s the jump off point to creating a visual connection.

What to do: Make eye contact and hold it just a little bit longer than you would with anyone else. The 3 second rule applies here. Don’t hold your gaze for longer than 3 seconds or it will creep the hell out of him. Break your gaze and then look over at them again. The goal is to get his attention and connect. Read his body language and if you catch him looking back at you… Then it’s game on.

2. Break The Ice

Now that you have his attention, you should be thinking of ways to break the ice and start a conversation with him.

What to do: Be aware of your surroundings and his. Slyly size him up for clues as to what his interests are. This should be easy depending on where you are. If that fails, look for positive things that stand out about him or his actions. Use it to make your introduction. Ask him his name and get the conversation going.

WARNING: Do not discuss religion, politics, sex or past relationships. Keep the conversation light and easy going. The conversation should be two-sided so make sure you are actively listening to what he is saying.

3. Body Language

It has been said that a large percentage of human communication is done through posture, gestures, facial expressions and other movements. No matter what we are expressing verbally, our body language sends subconscious signals to everyone we interact with. Use it to your advantage.
What to do: Make sure your body language compliments your words and your intent. This means stand up straight and poke your chest out to show confidence. Lean into the conversation and tilt your head to show that you are interested in what he is saying. Most importantly, smile damn it!

4. Your In, Now Get Out!

Alright, now this one is a biggie and you’re probably thinking “what in the hell..?”  Remember I said to keep the conversation light and easy going? There is a reason for this because now you are going to make your exit. This is going to create some mystery and make him want to know a little more about you.
Long conversations with strangers can become boring and just a tad bit awkward because the longer you talk, the less you have to discuss in the future. Keeping it brief will ensure you don’t say the wrong thing and also keep you from being a motor mouth.

What to do: Your conversation with him should last no more than 5 minutes. Simply say “it was a pleasure to meet you, but I have to get going.” Ask him would he like to exchange numbers and if he agrees, ASK PERMISSION to give him a call later that evening. It shows you are respectful of his time and he will most likely say “YES.”
There you have it! 4 Tips to help you get your gay flirt on and make the first move. Not only have I taught this technique to my clients, but I have personally used them. Practice makes perfect but once you get the hang of it, you will notice these flirts will convert to more dates.

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The Smart Guide to Flirting

Today’s homosexual is just as tenacious as he ever was, except now his options are virtually limitless. Since the birth of gadgets and hook-up apps, we’ve become picky, clueless, and impractical with our people skills. The result? A bar full of flirting retards.

It’s not every day we have the opportunity to hone our social skills. Whether you’re flirting or just trying to meet new friends, a good pick up line is one of the best tools you can have. Not only does it set the bar for the entire conversation, but it’s the one thing we tend to remember most.
The trick to breaking the ice lies in three steps:
Observe his surroundings, i.e. his drink, his friends, his outfit, his physical traits, or his demeanor.
React to it. Mentioning something he relates to will relax him.
Introduce yourself once the ice is broken.
  • #1) “Nice. Vodka Soda. Smart Idea. Do They Make Them Strong Here?” – Right off the bat, you’ve engaged him by asking a question that he’s bound to answer. Depending on how you ask it, you can show a great deal of your personality.
  • #2) “I love your smile. I’m officially calling you ‘dimples.’” – By pointing out his dimples, you probably have made him smile which will lead to more flirtatious teasing, thus creating a nice segue into your introductions.
  • #3) “Trouble In Paradise?” – Sure this is a pretty old line, but it works because there’s an underlining humor behind it. This should be used when the person you’re flirting with is alone. It has a surprising track record of getting a person to open up.
  • #4) “You like The Incredible Hulk? Aaaand, when are we getting married?” – If they’re wearing any kind of “nerdy” shirt with a special kind of franchise on it, it’s always a great idea to mention it in a teasing way. Not only will this make them giggle, but it showcases your humorous side.
  • #5) “You don’t seem to fit in here, (laugh) I don’t either. I’m ____.” By acknowledging that both of you are uncomfortable in whatever scene you’re in can create a great connection. Obviously this should only be used when they’re isolated from their friends or appear disoriented.
  • #6) “Do you go to my gym?” – Before you roll your eyes with this one, keep in mind that these types of questions will always lead to further discussion. Soon, you’re talking about which gym you both go to, how often you work out, maybe some of the routines you like, etc. Then voila! The ice is broken.
  • #7) “I hate to bother you, but I don’t come to this area often. What is this place called again?” – Not only can this give you an opportunity to be a little “naïve,” which is always cute, but it’s a perfect way to get a sense of their personality. Are they kind enough to help you?
  • #8) “Wow. You are so fired.” – This is a great line to use if they’ve done something slightly embarrassing to make fun of, i.e. spill a drink, trip on a chair, get someone’s name wrong, or lose at a game. It gives the message that you aren’t trying to impress him by kissing his ass, which is sexy, plus it gives you a chance to show your personality.
  • #9) “You’re getting flirted with left and right. What’s your secret?” – This line compliments them without appearing like you’re trying to feed their ego. Most reactions would be a laugh, followed by a playful remark.
  • #10) “This is a stupid question… but do you have Facebook?” – I’ve seen this pick up line used a few times by my friend (who is the funniest man I’ve ever met) and the guy he’s flirting with always laughs and responds with a sarcastic or sassy response, which leads to a hilarious introduction. The funnier you get with this one, the better.






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