Gay Singles 101: How to Make The First Move

We’ve been getting a lot of questions on flirting and how to make the first move. Well, today is your lucky day because we’re going to let you know some tips that will not only get his attention, but also create a curiosity to leave him wanting more.

1. Lock Eyes With Your Target

It amazes me how many gay guys have a problem looking into another gay man’s eyes while flirting with him. Maybe it’s shyness, maybe it’s a fear of rejection… who knows?! Whatever the case is, this is a very important step because it’s the jump off point to creating a visual connection.

What to do: Make eye contact and hold it just a little bit longer than you would with anyone else. The 3 second rule applies here. Don’t hold your gaze for longer than 3 seconds or it will creep the hell out of him. Break your gaze and then look over at them again. The goal is to get his attention and connect. Read his body language and if you catch him looking back at you… Then it’s game on.

2. Break The Ice

Now that you have his attention, you should be thinking of ways to break the ice and start a conversation with him.

What to do: Be aware of your surroundings and his. Slyly size him up for clues as to what his interests are. This should be easy depending on where you are. If that fails, look for positive things that stand out about him or his actions. Use it to make your introduction. Ask him his name and get the conversation going.

WARNING: Do not discuss religion, politics, sex or past relationships. Keep the conversation light and easy going. The conversation should be two-sided so make sure you are actively listening to what he is saying.

3. Body Language

It has been said that a large percentage of human communication is done through posture, gestures, facial expressions and other movements. No matter what we are expressing verbally, our body language sends subconscious signals to everyone we interact with. Use it to your advantage.
What to do: Make sure your body language compliments your words and your intent. This means stand up straight and poke your chest out to show confidence. Lean into the conversation and tilt your head to show that you are interested in what he is saying. Most importantly, smile damn it!

4. Your In, Now Get Out!

Alright, now this one is a biggie and you’re probably thinking “what in the hell..?”  Remember I said to keep the conversation light and easy going? There is a reason for this because now you are going to make your exit. This is going to create some mystery and make him want to know a little more about you.
Long conversations with strangers can become boring and just a tad bit awkward because the longer you talk, the less you have to discuss in the future. Keeping it brief will ensure you don’t say the wrong thing and also keep you from being a motor mouth.

What to do: Your conversation with him should last no more than 5 minutes. Simply say “it was a pleasure to meet you, but I have to get going.” Ask him would he like to exchange numbers and if he agrees, ASK PERMISSION to give him a call later that evening. It shows you are respectful of his time and he will most likely say “YES.”
There you have it! 4 Tips to help you get your gay flirt on and make the first move. Not only have I taught this technique to my clients, but I have personally used them. Practice makes perfect but once you get the hang of it, you will notice these flirts will convert to more dates.

Happy Hunting!

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Art of Flirting: A Gay Man’s Guide to Seduction

Flirting for gay men can range from being enjoyable to rather difficult depending on the social and personal context. In some places you are free to express your attraction towards another gay while in others you have to be careful of who are sending signals to. So whether you are looking for a casual encounter or a deeper interest in a likable single, here are some gay flirting tips to help you along.

Cultivate the right approach
Even if you have just come out of the closet, you need not look upon dating as a torturous, make-or-break process. Rather see it as a fun and social behavior that simply lets you reach out to potential partners but more importantly presents you as an attractive and easy-going person to others. Be positive, but realize that there isn’t much at stake. Treat your date not as something you need to deal with, but as an opportunity to embark on a new adventure. You might get to make a real connection with a guy, but if you don’t, there will be plenty of more chances coming along.

Spruce yourself up
Since flirting depends so much upon sending the right physical signals, it is important that you are well-groomed before you go out. Choose a personal style that hides your flaws and makes the best of your assets like a good height or a sexy jawline. However don’t forget the basics like clean teeth, nails, fresh breath and neat hair. Once you are looking good, feeling good about your appearance and sexuality will come naturally and you will be able to play the flirting game with more ease and confidence.

Mind your body language
Even if you don’t feel very confident about yourself, fake it. It is quite easy to do this by adopting a positive body language – for instance hold your head high and keep your spine straight, but relaxed. Initiate and maintain eye contact with your date since a visual connection is vital to pleasant flirtation. Smile and feel at home in the space you are in. At the same time though, don’t appear to be trying too hard – there is nothing which kills a delicious encounter quicker than a desperate or needy attitude.

Get started
Once you have caught a potential partner’s eye, you need to approach him and initiate a conversation. There are several ways of doing this – you can make a witty comment on the surroundings about you, like if you are buying something at a coffee shop, you can remark on how they have done up the place. Or you can say something funny about a condition you share, like when you are waiting at a queue in a bank or find yourselves hooked to the same kind of music at a mutual friend’s party. Paying a compliment like saying you like his car or jacket may sound cheesy but if done with the right degree of finesse and wit, it can make for an immediate connection. A one-liner can in fact be a sincere and a genuine sentiment of what is happening at the moment.  This would prove that you are paying attention to your date and that you are noticing their good points. Avoid pick up lines though – they rarely work since they sound obviously artificial and have been said by so many over the ages.  Once you him talking, ask some questions. People like talking about themselves and enjoy seeing that their listener is interested. Have some follow-up questions or observations prepared in case conversation stalls, but don’t use them if things seem to be flowing on their own.

The delicate approach
If you are not completely comfortable going out of your way to begin an acquaintance, you can take the subtle angle to flirting. Say you are in a new place or somewhere out of your familiar zone and are wary of coming on too strong. Try making it work for you by approaching someone who looks more comfortable, someone who looks like he belongs in the particular bar, club, coffee shop or wherever you are. Begin by telling him that you’re new at the place. Ask him some questions about it, such as what’s good to order, whether this is a typical night or whatever else occurs to you. If you’ve guessed right and he’s familiar with the locale, he may tell you about the place, show you around or talk about his experience there. If you were wrong, you can share your observations about the place to start a conversation – either way you will be tentatively starting a connection and depending upon your mutual vibes, you can decide whether to take it further.

Signal your interest
No matter which kind of approach you use, flirting is all about showing your interest in a partner. So once you have established a verbal connection, smile playfully and touch him lightly once or twice at appropriate times during the conversation, such as when he makes a joke. Even though you need not come on very strong if you don’t want to, it is important to show that you like him and are interested in him.

Don’t jump ahead
One of the issues which usually complicate the flirting game for gays is the assumption that each and every episode should eventually lead to the bedroom. The sooner you get the idea of having sex on the very first date out of your head, the more relaxed you will be when flirting with another gay single and consequently find it more enjoyable. Don’t look up flirting as a means to an end; once you begin to see flirting simply as a way of getting laid, you will miss the intrinsic charm of the experience and it will turn into a matter fraught with complexities and the fear of rejection. Rather approach flirting as a delectable interpersonal game between two people who are mutually attracted and thus engaged in the pleasurable experience of finding out nice things about each other.
Finally be prepared for rejection. One thing that scares gay men the most is being rejected while expressing his attraction towards another person.  Simply accept that your efforts at flirting will not be reciprocated equally by all singles – there may be some who will not be interested at all and some who will not be interested in the same things as you but sooner or later you will find some singles with whom you share a connection. So don’t take rejection personally and you will find yourself enjoying as you go on.

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Has Gay Flirting Turned Digital?

Remember the thrill of flirting with a guy on the subway or having small talk with the hottie at your friend’s party? It was exciting and kept you on your toes, not to mention boosted your self-esteem to incredible heights. Well, something has changed drastically within the last five years. Not that face-to-face flirting is over, but in today’s world it’s been altered in the most sophisticated way: through digital.
Gay men nowadays are flirting through technology. In order to speak their language or get a first date, it seems you have to type it. I can’t remember the last time I met a guy who hasn’t asked me for my Instagram, Facebook or other network account. Whatever good or bad impression I make at first is then progressed via the Internet.
Even as a Millenial I have to put my foot down. It’s not that gay men are becoming socially unaware of each other, but there has been a significant drop of the head in recent years. Literally. I can’t go into a bar, coffee shop, or subway train without seeing the tops of heads for aisles and aisles. Many of them doing pointless things, all of them out of boredom.
I don’t know about you, but I’m getting sick of flirting with head tops. When there’s no eyes to gaze into, it’s easy to become desensitized to the whole thing. Flirting is no longer left to the imagination, but rather sent through radio waves and satellites. I’m not speaking to a man anymore. I’m in a relationship with a profile page.
I’ve seen countless of my friends fall head over heals for guys they’ve met only twice, but because they’ve stalked them on Facebook, they feel like they know him. Everything about anyone is plainly written for the world to see and accept, forcing us to be at the mercy of their “About Me” section and hoping it reigns true.
Not that I’m boycotting Facebook or Instagram, but you’ve gotta admit, gay men are slowly becoming dependent on these platforms to speak for them rather than doing it themselves. Apps like Grindr also make it easier for gay men to find sex so even the old school hunting has gone. One or two clicks and you can have a horny guy over in no time. If things have changed this drastically in the last five years, who knows what’s going to happen in the next.
Flirting shouldn’t be dependent on tagging, adding, or poking on social media, but lived in the real world – where the real people are. If one more head top complains that guys aren’t flirting with them, I’m going to snatch the phone from their hand and hit them on the head. Out of love, of course.
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