Gay Cop Whose Pride Proposal Went Viral Opens Up About The Dark Side Of Fame

A London police officer who became a viral sensation last year after he proposed to his boyfriend in the middle of a Pride parade now says he wishes he’d never done it.

In a June 30 essay for The Guardian, Phil Adlem said he wasn’t prepared for the global attention he’d receive after he popped the question to fiancé Jonathan Sammons during London’s 2016 Pride festivities. A tweeted photo of the proposal received more than 4,000 likes, while video footage of the moment, as seen in the clip above, has been viewed over 45,000 times on YouTube.

Calling the experience of internet fame “unexpected and surreal,” Adlem said he hadn’t expected photos and video of his proposal to Sammons to take on a life of their own. When the video started to garner attention, he assumed it would stay “with the Pride bubble,” meaning that it would be received positively by all who viewed it. “I was on an emotional high in the immediate aftermath,” he wrote. “I had a wonderful fiancé and I was getting amazing messages of support from friends and colleagues.”

Much to Adlem’s surprise, things quickly changed when he began reading comments that viewers had made on social media about the photos and video. “My smile did not last long as I continued reading,” he recalled. Among the comments he said had been posted: “Both should be hanged till death,” “Absolutely disgusting” and “Don’t blame ISIS if they strike them!”

Worse still, the officer said he received a “hostile reaction” from a colleague, as well as a college friend. The responses brought to mind his earliest experiences with homophobia. “I was raised in a household which was staunchly anti-gay. On my 18th birthday, I went out with my ‘secret boyfriend’ and was the victim of a brutal homophobic attack,” he wrote,“in which I was dragged down a narrow alleyway by three men and severely beaten without a chance of defending myself. They did not stop until they were forced to by the police who arrived at the scene.”

In the end, however, the anti-LGBTQ pushback sparked by the proposal video and photos have inspired Adlem to live more out and proud than ever before. “I am lucky to live in a time when I can join the police service as an openly gay man – and I have previous generations to thank for that,” he said. “I am lucky to live in the UK, where I am not imprisoned or tortured for how I was born… Pride is an invaluable source of positivity and strength for anyone who has experienced abuse or bullying.”

Read more at: HuffPost Queer Voices.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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YouTube celebrates the LGBT+ community with powerful Pride video

YouTube has released a powerful video in support of Pride.

The clip highlights the diversity of the LGBT+ community, and features videos of Pride marches, same-sex families, popular LGBT+ YouTubers like Tyler Oakley, and even Drag Race’s RuPaul and Shea Coulee.

“I was told to wipe off my makeup and be a boy,” says male makeup artist Patrick Starrr in the video. “What they should have told me was to be myself.”

 

The video has received over 3.5 million views in just one day, but has also had 150,000 ‘downvotes’ and attracted homophobic backlash in the comments section, proving there’s still a long way to go to achieve equality.

“By not changing who you are, you are changing the world,” says YouTube of the video.

Watch the inspiring clip here.

Original story from Gay Times Magazine.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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During Pride, Take a Moment to Realize All We’ve Accomplished

After nearly 50 years of struggling for equality, amid celebration of the arrival of marriage equality in the United States, there was hand-wringing and name-calling. Cries abounded in LGBT quarters that “the movement had prioritized marriage” to the exclusion of all else. There were accusations and recriminations against national organizations that they drove the prioritization or came late to the game and claimed the glory.

As a movement we are a group of diverse, cantankerous, agitating, never-satisfied individuals. When some said we need a leader we balked. Leadership, yes; a leader, no! Some said we were too divided; too many unruly, defiant individuals to follow a single hero/ine. Whatever. We accomplished much, squabbling all the way.

Perhaps this is a moment when we can relent in our unrelenting complaints against ourselves to celebrate our national organizations, our state and city groups, our activists, individuals, couples, families, queer spawn, and allies for what we’ve accomplished together.

Some accused the national organization of coming late to marriage equality, not so — Lambda Legal was involved from the start, in 1993 in Hawaii filing an amicus brief supporting plaintiff couples, and in 1996 as co-counsel in the trial court. The Task Force was involved in fighting same-sex marriage bans state by state since starting in at least 2003, and its Policy Institute contributed critical opposition research. Freedom to Marry was founded to create a funding consortium and strategy base. Equality Federation state members like Mass Equality, Equality California, and Empire State Pride Agenda engaged state by state.

In city after city, individuals and couples stepped up to say, “Enough, don’t ask us to wait.” It was certainly a grassroots effort. But it wasn’t just marriage equality we were fighting for, or continue to fight for.

As a community, we battled a plague — HIV and AIDS — which the government would have refused to address were it not for our efforts. At the national level there was passage of hate-crimes legislation, repeal of “don’t ask, don’t tell,” and LGBT inclusion in the Violence Against Women Act. Antidiscrimination and anti-bullying laws were passed in cities across the country. LGBT families put themselves on the line to gain adoption and parenting rights. “LGBT rights are human rights and human rights are LGBT rights” became official State Department foreign policy, thanks to Hillary Clinton.

We matured to recognize and be a voice on issues of the larger society. We became a force within the immigration reform movement, participating in Black Lives Matter, advancing nondiscrimination on the basis of gender identity, calling for reform of law enforcement policies and prison conditions, health care and economic reform. We entered the fray of local and national electoral politics as voters and candidates.

Religious bodies became more inclusive, thanks to the Metropolitan Community Church, United Church of Christ, More Light Presbyterians, Lutherans Concerned, and progressive Jewish congregations. Courageous faith leaders reclaimed the high ground from those who used hate-filled rhetoric against us.

Issues of gender identity moved from the margins to the center of a national conversation. The role of transgender men and women in advancing civil rights and dignity for all has became a vital part of our movement. Across the country we changed hearts and minds.

No, it’s not like nothing else happened while we were prioritizing marriage equality.

 

Read more at: The Advocate Magazine.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Gay Atlanta Event: Free screening of “Pride”

June 9 @ 7:30 pm – 9:00 pm

PRIDE-Final-Poster1ATLANTA PRIDE COMMITTEE ― “Pride,” the sensational film from last year that was nominated for a Golden Globe Award for Best Comedy or Musical Film, and was Out on Film‘s Audience Award winner for Best Overall Film, will be getting a free encore screening as a part of Stonewall Month activities. What better LGBTQ film could we screen during this month? Come out and bring your friends!

Please RSVP by e-mailing info@outonfilm.org so we can plan for the appropriate size theater. Thank you!

 

 

Co-sponsored by Out on Film

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Date: June 9
Time: 7:30 pm – 9:00 pm
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Organizer

Laura Barton, Event Manager, Atlanta Pride Committee
Phone: 404/382-7588
Email: laura@atlantapride.org

 

Venue

Landmark Midtown Art Cinema
931 Monroe Drive NE , Atlanta, GA30308 United States
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Phone: 404/879-0160
Website: http://www.landmarktheatres.com/market/atlanta/midtownartcinema.htm

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