Online Gay Dating Tips for Seniors: How to Make it Easy & Fun

Senior gay dating can be a nerve-racking prospect but finding the right partner can make the experience worth the effort.

Gay men looking for love in later life can find it tricky to know where to start with senior gay dating, particularly if they have recently come out of a long-term relationship. But the evidence shows that greater numbers are plucking up the courage to try and are succeeding.

Interested in senior gay dating? Find out how to write your own senior love success story with these best (and fun) tips!

Keep an Open Mind

Limiting options to constructed laundry lists typical of teenagers can prevent meeting someone who might actually be a great match. By this point in life, turn-ons and turn-offs are established and this can certainly guide the quest in finding a potential partner.

Keep an open mind or shift perceptions about someone who maybe wouldn’t have matched expectations earlier in life.

Get The Perspective of Someone Younger

It’s natural to feel a little out of touch, and if you’ve got friends, loved ones or anyone who’s 30 or under, don’t be afraid to ask them for a bit of help.

They can help take a great photo of you which you can use as your profile picture, they can give you pointers on your bio, and also help you with any technical issues you might have using an online gay dating site.

Connect Through Friends and Family

Whereas asking a friend to set you up with someone as a teenager was deemed desperate, doing so as an adult is much different and even supported. Lifelong friends and sometimes family members know you best and have probably witnessed the type of people who would suit you best. Thankfully, because adult friends and family tend to boast more maturity and more wisdom, their radars are as well.

But rather than asking a loved one to do all the work, simply ask if they know of anyone who might be a good match then take the reigns yourself from there!

Update Your Wardrobe

If you’re not sure what styles, colors, and fit will work best for your body, don’t be afraid to ask someone! If you have a friend or family member (possibly someone of a younger generation) who has a good sense of style, take them shopping with you. If you can’t find anyone to tag along with, find a helpful department store employee and ask for assistance. You don’t have to make drastic changes (unless you want to), but just having a few solid, current pieces can make your dating self-confidence soar.

Meeting People Online

Online gay dating is the new way people meet especially now. It’s no longer seen as something for people who are desperate or strange. The sooner you get okay with that in your head, the better.

There are dozens of online gay dating services where older adults can find their perfect match. Many of these sites use algorithms to find compatible partners, often with great success. We highly recommend premier dating sites like Gay Dating Solutions and My Gay Match.

My Gay Match is a new gay dating site that focuses on matching gay men not only on demographic information but a unique personality measure developed by a psychologist. All members are personally confirmed and carefully screened by their staff to prove that they are real. If you’re looking to find a warm and meaningful connection with interesting and caring singles this is the site for you. The gay dating website is currently offering a free 30-day trial.

Or, if online gay dating seems daunting, look for new social outlets. Join a neighborhood investment club, or take classes at a museum. You have to give yourself the opening to be doing new things and meeting new people.

Try New Activities

Senior gay dancing events, gardening clubs, senior gay cruises and travel groups, fitness classes, gay book clubs, LGBTQ volunteering events and drag queen bingo games are good places to meet someone new. If none of these options interest you, think about your interests and see if your local LGBTQ groups support the same hobbies.

Plan an Interesting Date

Great dates start with planning. Restaurants and the movie theater are go-to date spots, but they’re not the most creative. Other options include the beach, museums, art galleries, bingo, and wine tasting.

If you do reach the point of going on a first date, try and head somewhere that’s busy, but not too crowded or noisy. That way there’ll be no awkward silence, and it’ll put you both in a positive, cheery mood.

Don’t Rush Into Intimacy or Monogamy

Sex on the first date isn’t unheard of, but it is risky. For many people, rushing into intimacy too soon will kill growing feelings and end a would-be relationship before it even begins. It can also be dangerous STIs are rapidly spreading in all age groups, including those over 50. Instead of focusing on the physical/sexual aspects, take your time to get to know your date on a deeper level.

Gay dating in your 60s might be hard, but let’s be honest—dating at any age is difficult. Just remember to stay safe, get vaccinated and enjoy yourself. You never know who you may meet or what you may learn about yourself.