Relationship Advice: We Love Each Other, But We Always Fight
Reader’s Question: I’m 23 and have recently come out of the closet (although not completely yet!). I met a great guy and we’ve been in a relationship now for almost a year and a half. Unfortunately, it seems like we’ve lost the spark we had before and we can’t go…
Gay 101: How to be a Better Bottom
Bottoming is just as much fun as Topping, and if done right can be the gateway to sensual delights man hath not even dreamed of. There are always new ways in which you can be a better bottom. As a versatile boy I get the best of both worlds and I…
Gay Couples: 8 Tips For Moving In Together
Some say moving in together is the proverbial kiss of death. Others think it’s the best thing since sliced bread or since the invention of dildos. Moving in with your significant other is a big deal – from fighting for the covers every night to waking up with the person you love…
Reader’s Dilemma: He Wants to Have a Threesome. And I Don’t!
Reader’s Question: “Hello there, I have a few issues I need resolved please. I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost four years. He works nights a lot and leaves early. I assumed he was cheating on me as I can’t give him what he wants in bed. So one night I…
Happy Gay Couples: Tips to Ensure a Long-Lasting Relationship
Everyone knows that perfect couple that just seems to have it all. How do they do it? Well, the secret to a happy relationship is more than just loving each other, it’s putting in that extra effort to make the relationship last. Are you searching for that ideal, enduring love?…
Blurred Lines: Can You Stay Friends With An Ex?
There are a plethora of reasons why you can technically remain friends with someone after dating them. But still, should you be friends with an ex? Depending on how long you were in a relationship with your ex, chances are you were in love with them. And regardless of the reason you broke…
Gay Relationships: Dealing with a Bully, Abusive Boyfriend
Love can blind us to bullying in unforeseen ways. You probably won’t see it until years down the line, and even then you still try and mask it with past memories—“Somewhere inside is that man I fell in love, so I’m going to keep on keeping on.” Sometimes boyfriends change…
Cut The Crackpot: Dealing with Crazy People
Crazy folks – everybody got them! Not the mental illness but people who are rational most of the time but have one area of life where they just see cross eyed. How many crazy gay men does it take to screw in a light bulb? The longer you try and make sense…
Top Common Reasons Why Gay Relationships Work and Fail
“Society desperately needs to see healthy gay couples functioning in successful relationships.” Back in the 90’s, I worked at Linden Oaks Hospital, a psychiatric clinic in Naperville, Illinois in their outpatient department providing counseling to all ages and populations.We did a lot of work with couples and used a handout…
Ex with Benefits: Bad Idea or Harmless Fun?
Running into your ex is common in the LGBT community, especially when you’re in a gay neighborhood. At the gym, in the bar, or on the streets, we’re bound to run into an old fling at some point or other. Sure it might be a bit awkward, but what happens…
Gay Relationships: Exploring the Power of Sexual Fantasies
Jack and Matt are both buttoned-down businessmen and have been together for ten years. They’ve been inseparable since Jack picked Matt up one night after cruising him for hours at the dance bar they frequent. The seduction was hot: eye contact led to physical contact, then making out in a dark…
Relationship Upgrade: From Friends to Lovers
It’s not unusual for someone to say of his lover, “He’s my best friend.” That’s a sweet thing. Of course, it’s also great to have a best friend who is not part of your relationship, especially at times when the relationship feels a little strained and we need some place to let off…