Changing the Dynamics of your Relationship
It is easy to get stuck in a relationship rut. We human beings are creatures of habit. Often we don’t like change much, especially if keeping things the same helps us feel safe or at least in familiar territory. Many of us will choose safe-but-boring over new-and-possibly-better any time we…
Gay Men, Ageism and Aging Well: Finding Your Purpose
I just finished reading about the suicide of a gay therapist Bob Bergeron. No one knows for sure why he committed suicide—the author of the article and many of his friends are left to ponder the reasons. But the irony left in the wake of his death is hard to ignore. He…
The Ethics of Gay Dating
One of the most common complaints I receive from single gay men about the dating scene is their frustration and pain of wearing “the battle scars” of mistreatment at the hands of other men they’ve met for potential friendship and dating. “Why doesn’t he call me back when he says he…
3 Ways to Find Out You are Dating the Right Guy
When you’re dating someone, it’s very important to always be on alert to determine if you and he are compatible for the potential for a long-term relationship. This screening process should be done before and throughout the pre-commitment phase of the relationship. By gauging your goodness-of-fit early on in your…
Gay Advice: How to Leave a Toxic Relationship
When you’re in the middle of a toxic relationship with a man you feel invested in, it can be very, very difficult to get out of that relationship. Not only will emotional ties prevent you from feeling you can live without your current man, but logistical difficulties (such as intertwined finances…
The Dos and Don’ts of Online Dating
These days, going online is as common a way to meet someone as a blind date or the bar scene, and you can connect to gay men of all ages, religions, professions and backgrounds from all over the globe. Online gay dating can be a great tool for broadening your options as long as you are…
Are You Pressured to Have Sex on the First Date?
I have to say it’s rare for me not have sex on the first date, though it does happen from time to time. I’m still unsure why. Perhaps it’s rare for me to meet a man I connect with on a level beyond sex, which usually makes me want to wait. Whatever…
Perfection and Acceptance: Body Issues in The Gay Community
There is a problem arising in the gay community with our self-image. We are constantly ranked by our attractiveness everywhere we go. The gym, the supermarket, even the coffee shop. People underestimate the poison that these judgments give to other people. The next thing we know, we’re putting the bag…
The Difference Between Confidence and Arrogance
No one will respect you if you can’t respect yourself. Men in general find it hard to differentiate between confidence and arrogance. We notice it in other people’s behavior, but when it comes to our own, we fail to see anything except what we’ve tried desperately to hide from the…
Online Dating- Why You’re Single and Alone
So I know that I’ve made a video about this before… but I’d like to expand on this idea… because this world is ridden with SergeantBIGCOCKs and I’m seein… Escape One-Night Stands that leave you feeling hollow and unfulfilled! Stop searching in vain and on your own for a Long-Term…