Top Rules For Successful Gay Dating
Written by Joseph • December 5, 2015
The words rules and gay should ideally never appear together in the same sentence. For better or for worse, I do believe in rules, if only because I want to know them before I break them. Here in L.A., we are blessed with the gift of unlimited options. During the winter, we have the choice of heading to the mountains to […]
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Rule 1. “Let Go Of the Past”
Every gay man has stories about “coming out”, childhood, family, fear and broken hearts. These are things that color our past but often get confused with what defines us today. It is important to take what has happened to us in the past and use it as knowledge and wisdom and not for something that completely defines who we are and what we are capable of.
Starting today… let go and create a clean slate in your life. This is so important to be happy not only in your life- but in your relationships. -
Rule 2. “Be A Gentleman”
There is nothing sexier to me than when a guy is well mannered. You can have all the money in the world or be extremely good looking- but if you are an asshole- that is all I will see. So try holding a door open, saying please or thank you- “be courteous”!
The art of being a Gentleman is long forgotten art and if you can sprinkle it into your life, it will become one of the most attractive things about you. -
Rule 3. “Be Chivalrous”
They often say “Chivalry Is Dead” which I ninety percent agree with. So this is your chance to (as Cher would say) TURN BACK TIME!
Be the guy who shows up to a date dressed up and not in a t-shirt. Be the guy who opens the car door and surprises their date with their favorite restaurant.
All these little things matter, and they are important to having a healthy relationship. If you do not channel your inner Mr. Darcy, you will never win over the heart of a good man. -
Rule 4. “Test Drive, Just Don’t Buy Car”
We often talk about sex as gay men. How can we not- we are men. It’s in our DNA to be aggressive, alpha and sexual. But when it comes to deciding if we should put out on the first date- its best to slow things down or just be another statistic.
Sure- sexual attraction is often overwhelming. Half the time I have been on dates all I can think of is how I want to rip the guys clothes off. But this mindset is once again self-destructive behavior.
Im not saying you can’t make out or heck even do a little dry humping. But just don’t buy the car on our first test drive! If you want the relationship, hold off.
It’s kind of sexy to build the tension anyway. -
Rule 5. “Be Assertive”
Last but not least, be assertive. There is no bigger turn off than a man that cannot commit to a timely follow up. If you like the guy- tell him. Plan the next time you want to see them.
In a world with technology that enables us to communicate in ten different ways- there is absolutely no excuse to tell you date you had a great time and that you want to see them again.
If you continue to be the guy who waits till Wednesday for a Saturday plan- you’ll be the guy alone till he is 80 years old.
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