Gay Dating and the Impact of Social Media

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There are no qualms about it…we live in a digital world now where technology is king and information and immediate gratification is readily available with the click of a button.

It’s even impacted our dating and sex lives.
In a matter of seconds, you can pull up a slew of pornographic images to what your sexual appetite or peruse a gay dating site to scan for potential matches with your cell phone or laptop when you’re on a break from work or traveling home on a subway. It’s that easy now!
But with this quick accessibility and push-button mentality, does it really serve the needs and ultimate prognosis for those single gay men who are seeking a soul mate for a long-term partnership?
Can you find love on Facebook? Is GayDatingSolutions.com and all those other dating sites the answer?
Let’s do an examination of the pros and cons of using social media in your dating efforts to see how it shapes up.

The pros of social media as a dating platform:
In a busy, hectic society when we have little time available to go out socially, if we live in a rural area with lack of access to a visible gay community and find it difficult to decipher who’s gay versus straight when out on the town, social media makes for a great leveraging tool to meet other single gay men.
While we are a lot more “out” and visible than ever before, social media has expanded opportunities for us to meet other men in a way we have never been able to before and has increased the odds of connecting with our single gay cohorts.
Social media has made it possible to get to know someone before actually meeting in person, allowing us to screen for compatibility and saving us time and energy in the process.
As long as this process isn’t too extended, this is a great time management asset.
It’s also a great way to break the ice and can be a good resource for shy guys to practice their social skills.
And let’s face it, it’s titillating! It’s another forum for flirting, confidence-building and revving up the excitement and anticipation of meeting.
But there’s also an inherent risk to this if you’re not careful, as you’ll soon see below.

“Avoid becoming dependent
on one particular dating platform.”


The cons:
Social media is more impersonal and less threatening than face-to-face interactions, therefore it makes one more susceptible to saying or doing things he might not in person and could sabotage a potentially good thing.
Social media has the tendency to accelerate the dating process (or cause it to come to a crashing halt!) if one isn’t cautious.
Because we haven’t met the guy in person to really see his true self, we can begin to build up a fantasy of him in our heads of what we’d like him to be.
Then one or two scenarios can happen:
One, once you meet him in person and the fantasy doesn’t match the reality, all the hopes of a match come crashing down and makes for a very awkward encounter.
Secondly, the fantasy can create an erotic charge that prematurely speeds up the relationship process.
Pacing rituals and the courtship process get thwarted because the connection can get sexualized and boundaries are more likely to get compromised.
What could’ve had a promising future results in a mere hookup situation because a foundation for a relationship didn’t have the chance to properly be established before introducing sex into the equation.
That’s why a great majority of the gay social networking sites are so sexualized. These businesses have capitalized on the fantasy aspect and are raking in millions of dollars because of their recognition of this vulnerability.
And research has shown social media has increased the opportunity and incidence of cheating and affairs for those already in relationships.
Social media can also make communication difficult. The written word in texts or chats can easily be misinterpreted and a lot of erroneous assumptions could be made that might sabotage something from getting off the ground.
Like attorney’s say, “Anything you say in writing can and will be used against you in court.”
Technology can be so easy and addicting that we might be more impulsive and reckless in what we say than we ordinarily would.

So what’s your stance?
Ultimately, you will have to make a personal decision about the role you want social media to play in your dating life after contemplating these (and other) pros and cons.
We are positioning ourselves for loss of human connection and social skill adequacy by relying on technology for our socialization if we’re not careful.
However, by exercising boundaries and good judgment, social media could actually enhance our lives and dating opportunities if used in the right way.
You’ll want to do your due diligence when researching various social networking sites to ensure they market to love and friendship instead of a sexual hookup-based aim if finding a long-term relationship is your modus operandi.
And in the dating world, it will be important to avoid becoming dependent on one particular dating platform to meet your needs. Spread yourself around to a variety of different venues so you have more reach, visibility and opportunities.
What has your experience been like with social media and dating? What are some of your favorite platforms that are truly relationship-minded?

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Gay Online Dating: Tips for Dating Online Safely & Successfully

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Online dating is a very useful platform for hopeless romantics trying to search for the right one. But just as with every other website that requires personal information, online dating sites must be treated carefully and with caution.
Looking for love need not be risky. A few steps to ensure your personal safety can be done before launching that head-turning dating profile on your chosen site. But how do we stay safe while looking for Mr. Right online? Here are a few tips that can help you remain secure while searching the internet sea for potential partners.

1. Let your instinct be your guide.
Before the two of you decide to meet in person for the first time, make sure you feel comfortable with him via online communication. If you’re not ready to share coffee or a drink, then speak up and say you need more time. Don’t put yourself in an uncomfortable situation just because you’re trying to placate this potential partner.

2. Don’t give out personal information.
This includes your last name, where you work, the full name of any friends or family, where you live or even places you frequent often. If your love interest turns out to be a crazy stalker, then you have just given him fuel for the fire.

3. Spread the word.
When you do decide to meet the potential Mr. Right, let those close to you know where you’re going (with an address) and when you should be expected back. Have a code word, so if you call your friend and say “pineapple,” then it’s known that you’re feeling uncomfortable and need backup.

4. Be picky.
Say you just got out of a five-year relationship with “George” and you’re so desperate that you joke you’d date any guy with a high school education. Don’t sell yourself short! Just because you haven’t dated in a while doesn’t mean you should settle. In the same regard, don’t go out with an online match who doesn’t have a photo on their profile. That’s just plain lazy or downright creepy.

5. Have an exit.
Once you’ve established the two of you hunks will finally meet in person, agree on a public setting. Choose a cafe or restaurant that’s always busy and even map out an exit. This can be via a code word with your friend or just straight up knowing where the exit door is.

Remember, when you meet someone for the first time they are still a stranger but just follow our advice, use your common sense and trust your instincts. All-in-all, online dating is not nearly as scary as some people make it out to be, but it’s still important to be prepared and vigilante. Chances are, this new guy will be your new knight in shining armor and all of this planning will be unwarranted.

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Gay Relationships: Is Bad Sex a Deal-breaker?

You’ve probably done it; you’re driving home late at night feeling disappointed – or worse.. Maybe you’re pounding the steering wheel and shouting at yourself. You just finished sex with someone and you’re sorry you did it.

You know the bumper sticker that says that the worst day at the beach is better than the best day at the office? Well, this is not true about sex. It’s better to stay hungry and horny rather than have sex that leaves you feeling bad about yourself. Good sex means sex that feels enjoyable while you’re having it, and equally good when you think about it afterwards.

Bad sex comes in several flavors, but they all taste pretty bad. You know it’s bad if you feel like you just wasted your time, or like you did something that hurt yourself or someone else. And if the sex is bad, why bother having it?

The main mistakes people make are:

1. The sex was all right, but it was with the wrong guy.
In this instance, there was nothing wrong with the physical acts involved and whatever else felt technically OK. But there was something about the guy or the situation that made it really not work for you.

Maybe one of you was hoping for a friendly encounter (or more) and the other one was brutally frank that this was just about getting off, thank you very much. If you reserve sex for someone you love and you do it with someone you find you don’t even like all that much, your body may be happy, but your heart won’t be. If you’re single and looking for love, sport-sex can leave your emotions raw and take a toll on your self-esteem.

If you leave feeling wounded or feeling like you’ve wounded the other guy, the sex was bad, no matter how much of a hunk your partner might have been.

Other situations that make it not work: you’re cheating on your lover and you feel guilty afterwards. Or you and your sex partner match up in terms of availability, but the guy is thoughtless or rude in a way that leaves you feeling bad about yourself afterwards. Or maybe you just have no interest in the guy and realize you weren’t really horny – you were just avoiding some chore like paying the bills at home. A good rule of thumb is to save sex for when you’re horny or wanting intimate connection with another person – not when you’re just bored.

2. Both the sex and the guy were awful.
We’re not talking bad technique here. You picked up the guy when you were high or drunk, even though you know that’s a problem for you, and now you feel like it was just another time when you were out of control. Maybe the guy was so hot that you gave in and had sex that you know was risky and unsafe and now you’re worrying about HIV or some other STD.

Some sex is really, really bad – when you’ve been assaulted, for instance. Maybe you are feeling violated because what happened was essentially date rape. Too often men think rape is something that happens only to women. They don’t recognize that having someone not take no for an answer is also a form of sexual assault, even if no one pulled a knife or a gun. Men who are drunk or high or who are just coming out can be particularly vulnerable to this sort of assault because they have trouble setting limits. Learning to say no and learning to protect yourself is important. The woods aren’t full of creeps, but hey: be careful out there.

3. The sex and the guy seemed OK, but the time afterwards was icky.
We can spend so much time working toward that orgasm that we don’t pay enough attention to what happens afterwards. Put yourself in that place: you’re still breathing hard, and your body is in a tingly, electric place. All of a sudden, your stud muffin is out of bed and on to whatever is next. If you’re having good sex, when the squirting stops you are entering a time that sexologists call afterglow. It’s a time when your heart is open and your body is awake, your mind is quiet and your spirit is soaring. You’re feeling open and maybe vulnerable and with the right guy it’s a very sweet time.

If you’re having bad sex, one of you is probably rushing to the bathroom to clean up right about now, destroying the mood. Of course in really bad sex someone may not be rushing for the bathroom – they may be running for the front door. When it’s over, it’s over! Nothing to say and no touching or holding. It can feel like listening to a piece of music that gets interrupted before the final notes are played. You’re left hanging.
Orgasms are nice (OK, orgasms are great), but they are not the sum total of sex – especially good sex. Good sex means that getting there is more than half the fun, and staying there afterwards is also pretty cool.

How to avoid bad sex?

First, resist the urge to cruise when you aren’t really horny. Using sex as a time-filler sets you up for disappointment. Learn to say “no” when the chemistry with your potential partner isn’t working; don’t have sex just to avoid disappointing him (believe it or not, people do that all the time). Know your limits regarding alcohol, drugs, unprotected sex and related stuff, and honor the limits you set for yourself. You’ll feel good afterwards.
And finally, when you are having sex and it’s going fine, don’t cheat yourself out of enjoying the coming-in-for-a-landing time after the big orgasm. Treat yourself and your partner with tenderness and respect.









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Hooking Up Online: 5 Ways To Keep Yourself Out Of Danger

When it comes to hooking up online, everybody’s done it. We’re sex-positive in these parts, and we figure if you’re gonna do it we may as well give you a few pointers on how to stay safe, so here are five ways you can be safer while hooking up online.

1. Let A Friend Know What’s Going On
If you’re the type of guy who can find a Grindr hookup while walking from one avenue block of your gayborhood to the next, chances are that you’ve probably got a friend that is equally as friendly as you are. So, why not take advantage of him? Take a screenshot of your next hookup’s face pic (because we know you’re not hooking up with someone without receiving a face pic first) and text it along with the address to your partner with a note that you’ll text him as soon as you’re done so he knows that you’re safe. The bonus is that you’ll totally have a record of all your hookups, someone to talk to them about and a printable face photo to put on the dartboard in case he ever decides to be a dick and block you. This is what we call a win-win situation.

2. Know How To Protect Yourself
If you’re a 5’6 twink who just happens to be into muscle daddies, you’ve got to be aware that you’re at a physical disadvantage going into the situation. We’re pretty solid over in these parts, and can still remember hooking up with plenty of guys that had at least 25 lbs and 4 or 5 inches (in height) on us. As a gay guy in 2015, you need to know how to protect yourself, and lucky for you there are plenty of opportunities to learn how to do so.
So, check out regular boxing classes, krav maga, and even some basic self-defense courses that can be found in pretty much every city. If you’ve ever got to take down someone who is being a little bit too aggressive, you’ll be glad you did.

3. Avoid Anonymous Encounters
Some guys are very into the anonymity of a total stranger coming in to plow them (or being the stranger doing the plowing), but we have to say that this is probably one of the most dangerous things that you can do while hooking up online. If you think it’s an A+ idea to have your head buried in the pillow and leave your door unlocked while waiting for a complete stranger to enter your apartment (and you), then get over it. Now.
Engaging in this particular type of hookup leaves you more open to robbery and sexual assault, and leaves you in the most vulnerable position you could be in. If this is really your thing, engage in it with a trusted bud and make it a part of the fantasy so you can have the hot sex with only the idea of the danger.

4. Trust Your Gut
On a message board we frequent there was a truly harrowing post from someone who got a really creepy feeling from a guy trying to pick him up at a bar. That guy turned out to be Jeffrey Dahmer. You know, the psycho who killed multiple gay men before dining on their flesh? Of course, those were days long before Grindr, Jack’d and the other apps, but even when you’re talking to a guy online your instincts can tell you whether or not there’s a “creep factor” that you can’t shake off. If you get even a hint that there is something not right about the situation, don’t go. Grindr has a seemingly endless parade of pole and hole, so we’re quite sure a little hunting will find you someone you can be comfortable and horizontal with.

5. Have A Regular Online Buddy
OK, so if you’re doing the Grindr (or Jack’d or Scruff or Squirt) thing, then obviously there is always going to be the awkwardness of meeting a hookup for the first time. However, if the sex is superhot and you’re both into making it a regular thing, then why not use the app to reconnect with your bud? You’ve obviously passed both the chemistry test and the “is he or is he not a cannibal psycho?” test, and since you’re both smart enough not to try to make a boyfriend out of an online hookup then you’re left with someone who can be trusted on some level that you have really hot sex with.
Here’s the dirty little secret about hooking up: most guys actually want a regular bud to hook up with, even if they’re not looking for a boyfriend. So have fun “auditioning” guys, and when you find one or two or ten that you click with, go ahead and put them on the team. A properly vetted online bud can nullify the need for all of the previous rules, so keep your eyes (and other things) open for a good one to keep in the stable. It’ll save you a lot of stress in the long run.
So there are five tips to keep you safe out there in the wonderful world of hooking up. Feel free to share your own in the comments section.






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The Most Essential Rule For Online Dating

I have been using the internet to communicate with other gay guys my age since I was sixteen-years-old. What started as a means to explore my curiosities in the privacy of my bedroom has matured into a means by which I have met romantic partners. In the early days of internet dating you were warned not to share too much detail about your life for fear of being taken advantage of but as we have become more comfortable with this digital medium we are more open to sharing our phone numbers, private pictures, personal stories and even our home addresses.

When I was eighteen I signed up for one of the few gay dating sites that existed at the time. The internet was the only access I had to the big gay world but because I was still in the closet I was reluctant to use a real profile picture for fear of being outed. Like many other questioning, young gay guys, I established a false profile, using an image that I found online. I created an alluring persona of the ideal “straight-acting”, high school jock and used this disguise to communicate with other guys. Luckily though, I quickly realized the pointlessness in pretending to be someone you are not, both digitally and in real life. Although my fake profile allowed me to comfortably chat to other gay guys (something I could not do while I was still in school) I knew that these relationships would never eventuate into anything more than an internet fling. I deleted my accounts and stopped using the internet for chatting until I was comfortable enough to establish a profile that reflected the real me, with genuine pictures included.

Since then I have met some great guys through dating websites and apps. Along the way I have also learnt some valuable lessons about online dating, the most important of which is honesty. Pretending to be someone that you are not is pointless in the long run. Sure it may allow you to escape the reality of your life in the moment but ultimately it’s a dead end and people inevitably are hurt. I also strongly believe that we should only be in relationships with people who love us for who we are and not for who we think they want us to be. The best way to attract these people into your life is to be honest from day one, and this means being honest in your online profile too. Exaggerating your height, body type or income may increase the views on your profile but what happens when you meet your love interest in person and he realizes that you are not a six-foot-two footballer with a six-figure salary? Such superficial things as body type and salary should not even matter in a loving relationship but they will become an issue if you have lied about them from the start.






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Getting off Grindr

I’ve had Grindr on my phone for years – so long that I forgot what a day was like without it. I remember the first time I downloaded it; I saw neighbors online, torsos and all, and realized just how gay friendly my block really was. It’s weird to think how an app such as Grindr can affect one’s life, but in my case, it distracted me from everything I wanted.

I don’t mean to sound melodramatic. Actually, there are plenty of guys I know who have Grindr and are perfectly fine. Some dudes understand it’s just a gimmick, but for others it’s different. Not having it around has opened my eyes in numerous ways. For example, I see men rather than a sexual position; I see experiences rather than opportunities; and I have much more free time than I’ve ever had before. I’m beginning to feel like my old self again, but the funny thing is I didn’t even know he had gone away.
Looking back, I know I was addicted to Grindr. Say what you want and think what you may, there are countless of gay men out there who’ve been in my shoes. For men with little self-esteem, Grindr is an easy way to find some. Opening it up and seeing how many guys like you can validate your existence. I’m not sure why or how, but the hunt for casual sex filled up so much of my schedule that it eventually overpowered my priorities. Everything caved in on itself.

The hunt became a habit, which, after many years, became apart of my life. It was the first thing I did in the morning, it was the first thing I checked whenever I was in a new city, I kept refreshing it at work, while shopping, at the diner, and at night I was sending countless of messages to guys, hoping to find a hookup before bed. The level in which I took it was pretty unhealthy. I know because it began to affect my friendships.
Most of the time I was online, I never expected to find anyone. It was mental for me. The hunt was stronger than the need to get off, but when someone finally bit the bait as it were, almost nothing would stop me. I’d break plans with friends, cancel dates, forget to take the dog out, procrastinate work, etc. Whatever it was, sex was more important. Eventually my friends grew tired of it.

Grindr isn’t a bad thing, but I know there are some guys who take it to a whole other place. It’s not fun or convenient, but rather invasive and toxic. For men like myself with addictive personalities, finding something that validates your attractiveness or appeal is a high. We fight every time to find it and fill our need to be authenticated; it’s hard to let it go.
Since I deleted Grindr, I can’t even tell you how much time I have. I never thought I’d say this, but sex actually has a whole new meaning. It’s funny how intimacy becomes more important when there’s more work to achieve. Sex isn’t like ordering takeout any more, which has made it all the more special. The guys I’m dating have been genuine and sincere – so different from the horny goats you’d find on Grindr. I used to judge my entire community based on what I saw on my iPhone, now, I’ve realized there’s so much more out there. It might be dumb to say it, but deleting Grindr was one of the best things that’s ever happened to me.




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Chatting With a Potential Date Online

You’ve picked an appropriate dating website to fit your needs and have the type of guy who hits your desired demographic as an ideal match. You’ve set up your profile, included an informative and fun summary of your goals, likes and dislikes, and sketched out an outline of your ideal guy. That wasn’t hard was it?

Actually, it takes time and trial and error to get something that fits, but spending the time to get it right is worth its weight in fantastic and inspiring dates and your possible life partner. Only launch your profile when you think you’ve got it right, and have a friend check it out and give feedback on how it sounds before you launch it. You have only one time to make a good first impression.
With every new profile, you will be fresh meat to the guys on the site, and curiosity will bring a series of men to you like bees to the honey.
“Marvelous!” I hear your say. Yes, it is (but some may be less savory than others). This is the time when guys will be flinging you messages to say “Hello.” But what do you say and do? Here are the top points to look at when interacting with guys online.

1. Rejection.
If you are completely turned off with a guy, don’t be rude. Just say, “Thank you for your message. Your comments are really appreciated, but I don’t think we’re a match.” Don’t get into the whys or reasons. Leave it at that and save the energy for the guys you’re interested in.

2. Too enthusiastic.
You get a message from a guy overseas, declaring his undying love and attraction toward you. He thinks that just by reading your profile, you can have a life together and overcome the distance and the language barrier. Stay clear of these types of men and refer to the brush-off comments in point one.

3. You don’t know what to say?
You feel frozen and stuck for dialogue. Don’t stress, this isn’t a bar chat-up where the need for a witty reply is needed immediately. You can go away, have a coffee, watch some TV, and then reply with your answer.
This is online life, not real time, so there’s no huge urgency. If they don’t reply again, don’t worry. It wasn’t to be and you can move on to the next one. There will be plenty of other men out there. It’s like shooting fish in a barrel.
These are men looking for a man, so keep the banter frothy and current and keep an eye out on recent news to discuss. Or talk about the weather or what’s happening in TV shows you both follow. Go down his profile list and get an idea of what he’s like.

“Online dating takes the immediate pressure
off approaching a guy in a social setting.”


4. Do not lie.
If you’ve posted pictures of you leaning against a Ferrari, don’t make out like it’s yours (unless it is). Also, don’t post pictures of you looking hot in your skimpy shorts when you were 20 and you’re now 20 years older and the same in pounds heavier. You will be basing a relationship on an untruth, and ultimately, it will not end favorably.

5. Arrange something more.
After you’ve chatted for a few days, arrange to chat on the phone or meet up for a coffee. If the person is reluctant to do so, move on. If you wanted a pen pal, then you wouldn’t be going on a dating website.

6. Sharing pictures.
If you are looking for a casual hookup, then feel free to start flinging your favorite adult-rated pictures of yourself. However, if you’re looking for a relationship, save those pictures until you start to get intimate in person.

7. Chatting on webcam/Skype is fine within reason.
It’s a time when you can see your potential date in real time and hear how he sounds and talks. Some guys have sparkling wit and charm online and are as dull as ditch water in real life. You want someone who directly correlates in real life to their online persona. Allow a small buffer of difference for nerves on the first meeting or chat. Avoid stripping off and showing each other your “meat and two veg” to the camera.
First, there are a few scammers out there where guys film the webcam output and post it on a variety of X-rated sites. This can have huge repercussions and be vastly embarrassing for you. Be wary and be careful using this media. Avoid drinking alcohol and taking other substances when chatting online and using webcams.

8. Use open questions.
Start with “What, where, when, how or why?” Closed questions shut down the conversation and make things stilted. Here are a few good opening questions to ask. “I’ve seen your profile and I see you are interested in travel. Where have you been recently?”
Offer a little information about yourself in each message, such as “I recently went to Paris. It was all that I expected and more.” If someone is interested in you, they will automatically ask, “What did you expect?” Leave each message open to have questions asked about it, as this keeps the dialogue fresh, stimulating and interesting.

9. Dating may seem like a job interview.
In many ways, dating is like a job interview. However, let your personality come through. Being overly formal is a turn-off to some, as is seeking too much attention with outrageous comments. Again, this is trial and error, so you will find your own balance in time. Don’t be worried because you can always hit the delete button.

10. Still meet new people.
This is online dating, not an excuse to hole yourself up on your own in your home, typing frantically away on your computer for months on end.
Online dating is a facility to meet people, not replace that activity with an online character that has more fun than you do, leaving you to live a solo life on your own. It’s a service and make sure you use it in the correct way.
Ultimately, online dating takes the immediate pressure off approaching a guy in a bar, at work or in a social setting. However, you will still have anxiety when meeting for the first time, but at least you have established a common ground of interests.
The dating starts from the first meeting, which is why it’s important to meet earlier rather than later, as the longer you chat online, the more pressure there is to turn it into a physical relationship at an earlier stage than you originally wanted.




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Gay Online Dating Just For Hookups? – Wrong!

It seems easy for gay guys to separate love and sex, especially when it’s so convenient to find both. This is the 21st century after all. Digital technology has made people dependent on all sorts of apps. They’ve made buying groceries, ordering food, purchasing items and finding sex much more easier. But has it succeeded in helping us find love?

First, it’s time to know the difference between hookup apps and dating apps. Most gay guys searching for love are under the impression that “spreading yourself” across as many digital platforms as you can increases the chances of finding a compatible person. Though it makes logical sense, here’s my problem with it.
When you have a particular intention, it’s silly to try and find it anywhere else except websites that market themselves for your needs. You wouldn’t go into a music store to buy a fish, right? Why then would you try to find romance or love on particular apps marketing themselves as a “hookup” source?

If a site’s platform actually aims to help you build a connection with a man, rather than a two-dimensional hookup app, it’s probably going to be a better source to find romance. Sites like Gay Dating Solutions is a pretty good example of that. Obviously apps like Grindr would be a different story. Personal questions, compatibility data and full access to a man’s life rather than what’s in his pants (i.e. “Private images”) are all good signs of sites geared towards finding love. 
Don’t get me wrong, every love story is different. That’s the beauty of it. With so many people dating online now there’s almost no reason to venture off into gayborhoods to find a man anymore. But despite polls showing one in ten Americans are dating online, many gay guys are hesitant out of fear it will become “all about the sex” real quick. The truth of the matter is it’s all about where your focus lies.

If you’re expecting online dating sites to offer nothing but sex, guess what, it probably will because it’ll be the only thing you’re seeing. It’s the perception you’ve created for yourself. But when you make it clear what you want, users and potential mates will follow that standard because you’ve set the intention. Sure you’ll find a few horny goats out there, but the vast majority of them won’t message you unless you’re giving a subliminal invitation towards the idea. 
Too many guys I’ve spoken with claim they’re looking for love, yet the shirtless profile pic of them doesn’t seem to match their words. When you lay down the line – whether it’s sex, love, or open to possibilities – you will welcome other like-minded guys to you.

Online dating is supposed to be fun because it’s all in your control. Sex-cruising is a bit more intense because it’s all about the hunt. But if there’s one philosophy everyone should live by it’s “All roads lead to Rome.” Love is possible through online dating, trust me, I’ve seen it with my own two eyes. But like all things, you have to know where to look. Romance exists in the inter web, so go out and find it.




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