You may be holding on to a relationship that has clearly run its course, but you are afraid to let go. “But we’ve been together for such a long time” and “I know I can get through to him if I just hold on a little bit longer” are common excuses that hold you back from leaving a man who isn’t deserving of their time. The more time you spend messing with that old flame, the harder it becomes for Mr. Right to walk into your life. Imagine if you devoted your time to somebody who was actually worthwhile, instead of your current “boo” who constantly takes advantage of you.
Make eye contact: your smartphone is a crutch especially when you’re waiting alone at a bar, on the elliptical machine at the gym, or the metro. Take time to look around and when you see someone who looks nice, smile! Be genuine in your approach and people will be very receptive to this! It shows you’re confident and outgoing and willing to take risks. Once your phone is away – the world is a singles bar!
Try online dating!
Yes, we just told you to get offline and start meeting people in real life, but this is for those who have been doing it the way of our parents’ parents for far too long. Look, it’s 2018. If you’re still reluctant to come around to online dating, I don’t know what to tell you to change your mind. Online gay dating is a great way to find a date, mostly because you’re able to get to know someone before having that all important first date. Gay dating sites allow you to be matched with people on compatibility and values, as well as allowing you to browse at your leisure so there really is a site for everyone.
Do things that you love!
When you join groups or focus on things you love, you become your best self and attract people more easily. Plus joining groups is a great way to meet people – you already have something in common!
Be the person you’d like to date!
Too many times gay men are more interested in looking for Mr. Right instead of becoming it. Write down all the characteristics you’d like in a partner and then ask yourself: am I any of those things? (Be honest)! Now try to be those things. When we become the person we’d like to date, we love ourselves more and that will attract the right kind of person into your life.
Make a move!
Stop playing games. If you like a guy, don’t be afraid to make the move.
