Written by Joseph • July 24, 2015
The poets speak of love at first sight. But can you really fall in love with someone you meet once? And if you do fall in love so soon, can you trust your feelings? Will they last? Let me recap the debate that rages over this. Some say no. Love at first sight is mere […]
The poets speak of love at first sight. But can you really fall in love with someone you meet once? And if you do fall in love so soon, can you trust your feelings? Will they last?
Let me recap the debate that rages over this. Some say no. Love at first sight is mere animal lust masquerading as deep soul connection by those who need to justify their attraction. Why would anyone trust that? “It’s a notion dreamed up by Hollywood romantics who like to air-brush the random happenstance of life until it looks like perfect, sweet destiny,” says Californian Bill, 42. “Instant sparks and intense feelings are lust, or maybe puppy love. But they’re not real love that comes from time, trust, and respect.”
Others believe in the fate and romance of instant love. It happened to them, so it must be true. If love at first sight continues past the first year into the first decade, then who’s to argue? “I met my boyfriend eight years ago and we fell in love instantly,” says New Yorker Alan, 29. “Our meeting was fate. Our love hasn’t changed, just grown.”
Lovers may disagree, but what do the experts say? Can they help decode the mystery of what happens when you think you’re falling in love with someone right off the bat (I call this the “Jerry-Maguire-you-had-me-at-hello” phenomenon)?
Letting the nay-sayers have their say…
So, if science supports love at first sight as a valid kickoff in the game of love, then why is there such objection to the notion? A few possible reasons include our tendencies to:
So while science doesn’t yet have a definitive answer, maybe it’s best to adopt the following attitude: “Understanding the brain remains one of the great scientific frontiers,” says physics professor and USA Today science expert James Trefil. “And even though it may cost me my scientific union card to say so, if we never learn any more about love at first sight, it will be fine with me. Some things are just made to be enjoyed.”
Maybe we should just treat love at first sight as a welcome hint. Give it a shot, whether it’s an explosion of neurotransmitters or the undertow-like emotional pull of fate. Appreciate the feelings, which are a gift. But don’t confuse the fast fire of love at first sight with the slow burning flame of a real relationship.
I never thought I’d quote Ronald Reagan, but his famous comment, “Trust, but verify,” takes on a new meaning in this context. In romantic terms, it translates to “Believe with an open heart, but act with a cautious one.”
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