Dating is fun at any age. The time to start dating is right now. So, stick out your hand, flash them a smile and meet a new friend.
The dating landscape can be a difficult one for single gay seniors looking for love. Singles at gay bars and clubs tend to glamorize youthful, boyish looks while overlooking the silver foxes and bears on the dance floor. Such ageism can be disappointing, to say the least, but it’s not inescapable. There are growing pockets of senior gay men branching out into the social scene, living their best life, and defying the conventions of who’s hot and who’s not.
When we are young guys, it feels like society has etched our whole future in stone. Attending college, landing a job, and marrying our soulmate should be checked off a bucket list before reaching certain ages, or we’re considered to be falling behind and not mature. However, special milestones like settling down and finding companionship are unique for everyone.
No matter how old you are, especially if you’re in your sixties or even over, there’s a healthy and happy long term relationships and hookups waiting for you. As you start getting back in the dating game, free online and traditional tools can help you find a compatible guy (young or mature) for a one-night-stand or deeply committed connection. Being senior does not mean not having no options to date.
Here are some top tips to help seniors in the gay dating world:
- Aside from meeting in person, there are tons of gay dating sites specifically created for seniors. These are great places to meet others who share similar interests, live in your area, and share your ultimate relationship goals. Online gay dating can be tricky at first, but after some practice, it can be an easy way to meet several potential partners. We highly recommend premier dating sites like Gay Dating Solutions and My Gay Match.
My Gay Match is a new gay dating site that focuses on matching gay men not only on demographic information but a unique personality measure developed by a psychologist. All members are personally confirmed and carefully screened by their staff to prove that they are real. If you’re looking to find a warm and meaningful connection with interesting and caring singles this is the site for you. The gay dating website is currently offering a free 30-day trial. - Avoid clichés in your gay dating profile. You will discover why when you read what others write about themselves. There are just too many people out there who “like long walks on the beach” or “enjoy theater, fine restaurants and exotic travel.” Whatever you write, make sure it expresses the goals, values and lifestyle choices that make you distinct.
- A coffee date for the first meeting is a good idea because it keeps the date at an hour or two. Also, these places are usually crowded, well lit, safe and perfect for meeting a stranger. Be practical, not cheap.
- Never give out personal financial details to anyone you have just met.
- Trust your own instincts. If anything makes you uncomfortable, walk away for your own protection and safety.
- Watch for red flags. Pay attention to displays of anger, intense frustration or attempts to pressure or control you. Acting in a passive-aggressive manner, making demeaning or disrespectful comments or any physically inappropriate red flags.
- It’s okay to have dating as a lifestyle. Maybe you have spent the good part of your life with a partner, and you want to live the rest of it as a single person. That’s fine, just be up front with your date that you are not trying to find another partner.
- Don’t get stuck living in the past. Live in the present. Unload your baggage before you start dating.
- You are never too old to be at risk for HIV. In fact, the fastest growing AIDS rates are among people 50 and older.
- Don’t confuse sexual attraction with emotional bonding.
Your senior years can be full of love, romance, and adventure if you embrace your age and the wisdom it brings. The right date venues and strategies can give you access to a world of possibility and promise.