Gay Advice: How Do You Stop Missing Someone?
It is never easy to cope with missing someone. Whether the person in your life is gone for a short duration, has chosen to end your relationship, or has moved to a new town, the pain and longing you feel is a normal reaction to loss. Here are some coping strategies to lessen…
Gay Advice: When The In Love Feeling is Gone
Reader’s Question: The first year with my boyfriend was amazing. We connected so well. Now, in year two, I feel like he takes me for granted, and I do the same to him. I have to admit that this has happened to me before. What can I do to stay contented…
Relationship Advice: Living Together as a Gay Couple
Often in a long-term relationship, gay couples ultimately face the question of whether or not to shack up. The prospect of living together offers the advantages of spending more free time together, building the level of intimacy and the sharing of financial resources. For gay couples, living together is no…
6 Ways to Save Your Relationship From Depression
Even the strongest of unions can break down under the strain of mental illness or depression. Here are a few coping strategies: Relationships can break down quickly under the impact of depression. While many depressed partners decide to leave for good, I think it’s more common for two people to…
Relationship Advice: We Love Each Other, But We Always Fight
Reader’s Question: I’m 23 and have recently come out of the closet (although not completely yet!). I met a great guy and we’ve been in a relationship now for almost a year and a half. Unfortunately, it seems like we’ve lost the spark we had before and we can’t go…
Reader’s Dilemma: He Wants to Have a Threesome. And I Don’t!
Reader’s Question: “Hello there, I have a few issues I need resolved please. I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost four years. He works nights a lot and leaves early. I assumed he was cheating on me as I can’t give him what he wants in bed. So one night I…
Blurred Lines: Can You Stay Friends With An Ex?
There are a plethora of reasons why you can technically remain friends with someone after dating them. But still, should you be friends with an ex? Depending on how long you were in a relationship with your ex, chances are you were in love with them. And regardless of the reason you broke…
Relationship Advice: Facing a Fear of Commitment
Ever read advice columns? I don’t think they could exist without letters from women dating guys who can’t commit. It’s almost a cliché: “Joe and I have been dating for 7 years now, and he still hasn’t asked me to marry him. What’s wrong?” Gay men are probably no different from…
Top Common Reasons Why Gay Relationships Work and Fail
“Society desperately needs to see healthy gay couples functioning in successful relationships.” Back in the 90’s, I worked at Linden Oaks Hospital, a psychiatric clinic in Naperville, Illinois in their outpatient department providing counseling to all ages and populations.We did a lot of work with couples and used a handout…
Ex with Benefits: Bad Idea or Harmless Fun?
Running into your ex is common in the LGBT community, especially when you’re in a gay neighborhood. At the gym, in the bar, or on the streets, we’re bound to run into an old fling at some point or other. Sure it might be a bit awkward, but what happens…
Gay Relationships: Exploring the Power of Sexual Fantasies
Jack and Matt are both buttoned-down businessmen and have been together for ten years. They’ve been inseparable since Jack picked Matt up one night after cruising him for hours at the dance bar they frequent. The seduction was hot: eye contact led to physical contact, then making out in a dark…
Relationship Upgrade: From Friends to Lovers
It’s not unusual for someone to say of his lover, “He’s my best friend.” That’s a sweet thing. Of course, it’s also great to have a best friend who is not part of your relationship, especially at times when the relationship feels a little strained and we need some place to let off…