Gay Advice: What Makes a Healthy and Happy Relationship?
“Healthy relationships require patience, creativity, skill and commitment. It can be hard work, but few accomplishments in life are more satisfying.” Healthy intimacy is a dance that honors and enjoys our partner while not losing our sense of individuality. Time and activity with our partner must be balanced by activities…
Gay Relationships: Importance of Sex Role and Penetration
Sex is one of the most intriguing parts of a committed relationship. Two minds, bodies and souls connecting in such a vulnerable way increase not only the excitement, but the ever-growing trust which is crucial in everyone. But why is it when we think of gay sex, we assume penetration…
Creative Ways to Breakup with Your Jerk Boyfriend
Breaking up is hard to do, well, almost. Ending a relationship doesn’t always have to be nice. Sometimes boy toys are just plain idiots and need to be taught a lesson. The trick to a great breakup is turning it into a symbol. If it was an awkward relationship, make…
Gay Relationships: How Much Do You Trust Your Partner?
“We can tell each other anything.” Maybe you’ve heard someone make that claim, usually with a little smugness. It’s taken as gospel that being able to tell your partner everything is a sure sign of health and maturity in a relationship. But is that always the case? Being able to trust…
The Right Time for Love: Starting a New Relationship
Starting a new relationship can feel a bit disorienting. At first everything is exciting; this is what you’ve always wanted, right? Months or years – seems like a lifetime – of dating, and all of a sudden here he is! What’s next? Relationships require care and encouragement and it helps to get…
Gay Relationship Advice: I’m Dating a Married Man!
Reader’s Question: I met my boyfriend 4 years ago and he has 2 children. About a year into the relationship, I knew there was something not adding up. Well, I found out the hard way that he is still married to his wife! I tried many times to talk to…
Gay Relationships: The Power of Loving Touch
Developing skill with touch is an important part of having successful relationships. Touch is critical to human beings. The love and support communicated through touch affirms our connection to others and has even been shown to contribute to the health of our immune systems. Many studies have shown that when infants…
Is Sex More Important Than Love in a Relationship?
Love and sex are two of humanity’s most wanted (and needed) acts. For single gay folks out there it seems to be a constant hunt to find one, the other, or both. I’m a man who believes in balance. When I get something sweet, I want a bit of sour…
Gay Relationships: Meeting The Parents and Relatives
Gay men aren’t the only folks who have complicated relationships with parents and in-laws, of course. But while straight couples typically get a lot of recognition, support and encouragement from their parents and other family members, things are often different for us. Some families are very welcoming. Other families are indifferent…
Gay Dating and Violence: Are You Dating an Abuser?
Same-sex domestic violence doesn’t seem like a big problem to many gay men. Statistics are hard to come by; it’s hard to know the scope of the problem. Just like male rape, however, men find themselves being victimized on occasion. For men there can be the additional issue that because we…
Gay Relationships: Setting Healthy Boundaries
Have you ever skipped going to the health club one day because you just absolutely had no motivation to get all sweaty and tired? Or what about gorging on a half-gallon of ice cream to cope with your stress? Ever leave the mall wondering what the heck you were thinking…
Embracing a New Beginning: Moving On After a Breakup
The ending of a relationship, for whatever reason, can be one of the most painful experiences that we can go through. Having made ourselves vulnerable by opening our hearts to another and loving him to the fullest capacity almost feels spiritual; now it’s been replaced with a crushing sense of…