Some men are pretty good at dating, but seem mysteriously unable to close the deal and form a lasting and committed relationship. There are plenty of reasons why this might be the case; one reason is that we often have unfinished business elsewhere in our lives that keeps us distracted or…
I often get letters from men asking how to go about maintaining a friendship with an ex-partner after they’ve broken up, and this is no easy endeavor. But it is possible! In fact, this scenario is quite commonplace in the gay community. When some of us feel disengaged or removed from…
It’s not every day we meet someone and have an immediate connection. In a matter of minutes we become like a school boy again, and for days afterward the signs of LOVE begin to blossom. But despite the fact that your heart is pulling you towards his, it seems like there’s…
While there were a couple of good points made, for the most part we GAGGED at what we were reading (if your relationship can’t survive a Facebook status, you got other issues). It also made us feel sad that men really attribute these shallow reasons to why their relationships aren’t…
Our relationships grow deeper and more fulfilling when we have the ability to express ourselves and to listen more deeply to our partner. Intimacy requires us to become vulnerable to one another. For men, that sometimes seems contrary to everything they’ve learned about how to lead life. The paradox is:…
A Reader’s Question: What can we do to spice up our sex life? I have a younger lover and I think he is getting bored! _______________________________________________________________ Revving up one’s sex life in a relationship can be lots of fun, particularly since repetitive and monotonous sexual routines can actually begin to get boring…
Money can be a very contentious issue when you’re dating, and money can be the main cause for a relationship breakup, whether through a disparity between the people in the relationship or a complete lack of funds. When we first enter a relationship, the money sense in us is pretty…
So what makes a healthy and lasting long-term gay relationship successful? Our society certainly doesn’t make it easy for us as gay men to date and mate with all the homophobia and discrimination that exists. Though this is slowly starting to change in many parts of the world, man-to-man love…
I’ve reached a point in my life where I know what works and what doesn’t in a relationship. The answer: nothing. There is absolutely no prescribed fix for any given situation in terms of relationships. But to borrow from an old saying, I’ve learned from my mistakes – and his…
Life is all about development, evolution and progression, and as we go through this maturation process, there are often typical stages we experience as we continue to grow. For example, you will likely recall you went through certain stages and phases of identity development as you came out to yourself as…