Commitment, Intimacy and Vulnerability in Gay Relationships
Intimate relationships come in many flavors: dinner-and-a-movie dates that develop slowly into something else, dating one guy exclusively and becoming boyfriends, establishing something more permanent, perhaps as lovers or husbands or partners. Some relationships evolve hastily; others take time. Some men are comfortable “playing the field,” while others move so…
Are Gay Men More Promiscuous?
I heard from a friend recently who told me about a recent conversation with a young friend over dinner. Seems the young guy had recently split with a boyfriend after finding out that his man had been sleeping around.The conversation turned to gay men and sex. Why is it so…
How Important Is Anal Sex In Your Relationship?
Sex is one of the most intriguing parts of a committed relationship. Two minds, bodies and souls connecting in such a vulnerable way increase not only the excitement, but the ever-growing trust which is crucial in everyone. But why is it when we think of sex with gay men, we assume…
How To Dump Your Sex Buddy
Urban Dictionary defines a friend with benefits as “Two friends who have a sexual relationship without being emotionally involved.” It is someone you can get away with drunk texting on Friday night from a bar after your fifth cocktail. It can be someone who you would never date for various reasons (he rides…
Gay Dating and Money Matters
Money can be a very contentious issue when you’re dating, and money can be the main cause for a relationship breakup, whether through a disparity between the people in the relationship or a complete lack of funds. When we first enter a relationship, the money sense in us is pretty…
Top 10 Characteristics of Gay Power Couples
So what makes a healthy and lasting long-term gay relationship successful? Our society certainly doesn’t make it easy for us as gay men to date and mate with all the homophobia and discrimination that exists. Though this is slowly starting to change in many parts of the world, man-to-man love…
Gay Advice: Maintaining a Successful Relationship
In fact there are common elements in every type of relationship but us, gay couples have our own special problems and challenges to live through as well as benefits of course. First of all, gay couples have to permanently fight with the rules and barriers of the homophobic society and it’s not an easy…
Coping with a Depressed Boyfriend
QUESTION: My partner of 9 years lost his job a year ago after having downloaded some pornography on his computer at work. He hasn’t had any luck since then securing new employment and the longer that time goes on without his finding a job, he’s become increasingly more depressed and hopeless.…
5 Keys to Maintaining a Successful Gay Relationship
I’ve reached a point in my life where I know what works and what doesn’t in a relationship. The answer: nothing. There is absolutely no prescribed fix for any given situation in terms of relationships. But to borrow from an old saying, I’ve learned from my mistakes – and his…
Changing the Dynamics of your Relationship
It is easy to get stuck in a relationship rut. We human beings are creatures of habit. Often we don’t like change much, especially if keeping things the same helps us feel safe or at least in familiar territory. Many of us will choose safe-but-boring over new-and-possibly-better any time we…
It’s Time To Break Up: 10 Warning Signs You Shouldn’t Ignore
I like to imagine life as a really big roadmap. Our lives intersect at many different times as we travel up and about towards our destiny. Sometimes we find a special someone to travel with along the way, but more often than not our journeys have no choice but to…
7 Damaging Relationship Myths — Debunked!
When you think a relationship should be a certain way, and yours isn’t, frustration sets in. And frustration is the number one thing that eats away at a relationship, and it’s directly tied to these myths. The problem with persistent myths is that they can erode a relationship’s happiness, that’s why it’s…