The Most Essential Rule For Online Dating
I have been using the internet to communicate with other gay guys my age since I was sixteen-years-old. What started as a means to explore my curiosities in the privacy of my bedroom has matured into a means by which I have met romantic partners. In the early days of…
How to Make Safe Sex Even Sexier
Despite our knowledge about HIV/AIDS and other sexually transmitted infections these days, recent studies point to a decrease in condom usage among gay and bisexual men. Why is this happening in spite of our knowledge of safer sex education and of the lethality that can be involved with contracting HIV? There…
Changing the Dynamics of your Relationship
It is easy to get stuck in a relationship rut. We human beings are creatures of habit. Often we don’t like change much, especially if keeping things the same helps us feel safe or at least in familiar territory. Many of us will choose safe-but-boring over new-and-possibly-better any time we…
Gay Men, Ageism and Aging Well: Finding Your Purpose
I just finished reading about the suicide of a gay therapist Bob Bergeron. No one knows for sure why he committed suicide—the author of the article and many of his friends are left to ponder the reasons. But the irony left in the wake of his death is hard to ignore. He…
The Ethics of Gay Dating
One of the most common complaints I receive from single gay men about the dating scene is their frustration and pain of wearing “the battle scars” of mistreatment at the hands of other men they’ve met for potential friendship and dating. “Why doesn’t he call me back when he says he…
3 Ways to Find Out You are Dating the Right Guy
When you’re dating someone, it’s very important to always be on alert to determine if you and he are compatible for the potential for a long-term relationship. This screening process should be done before and throughout the pre-commitment phase of the relationship. By gauging your goodness-of-fit early on in your…
Gay Advice: How to Leave a Toxic Relationship
When you’re in the middle of a toxic relationship with a man you feel invested in, it can be very, very difficult to get out of that relationship. Not only will emotional ties prevent you from feeling you can live without your current man, but logistical difficulties (such as intertwined finances…
The Dos and Don’ts of Online Dating
These days, going online is as common a way to meet someone as a blind date or the bar scene, and you can connect to gay men of all ages, religions, professions and backgrounds from all over the globe. Online gay dating can be a great tool for broadening your options as long as you are…
Are You Pressured to Have Sex on the First Date?
I have to say it’s rare for me not have sex on the first date, though it does happen from time to time. I’m still unsure why. Perhaps it’s rare for me to meet a man I connect with on a level beyond sex, which usually makes me want to wait. Whatever…
It’s Time To Break Up: 10 Warning Signs You Shouldn’t Ignore
I like to imagine life as a really big roadmap. Our lives intersect at many different times as we travel up and about towards our destiny. Sometimes we find a special someone to travel with along the way, but more often than not our journeys have no choice but to…
7 Damaging Relationship Myths — Debunked!
When you think a relationship should be a certain way, and yours isn’t, frustration sets in. And frustration is the number one thing that eats away at a relationship, and it’s directly tied to these myths. The problem with persistent myths is that they can erode a relationship’s happiness, that’s why it’s…
5 Dating Tips For Short Gay Men
Good things come in small packages. Overwhelmingly, a lot of gay men prefer tall guys. But if the ideal man is tall, dark and handsome, are gay guys who are short, blonde and ugly really the least likely to find love? Not necessarily. In my coaching practice, I’ve found that diminutive gay men…